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Regency Rules of Mourning

The long-anticipated fourth season of the hit BBC series Downton Abbey premiered last week in the U.S., and the first episode revolved around Lady Mary’s grief at losing her husband Matthew (who inconveniently crashed his car on the same day his son was born at the end of Season 3).



We were told at the outset of the episode that six months had passed since Matthew’s death, and it was hard not to notice the unrelenting black of the clothes Mary wore. She was dressed according to the dictates of mourning etiquette, a practice which extended back to the Regency period and even further.

During the Regency era a woman whose husband had died would wear black for at least a year. Her gowns would typically be made of black bombazine, a heavy material, or a lighter black silk crepe. If you were an aristocrat like Lady Mary, your mourning clothes would be made by a fashionable modiste, based on the latest French fashion plates. 

Women who could not afford to have mourning gowns specially made for them would get creative and make a mourning wardrobe from the clothes they already had, adding black trim to a gown or a black lining to a piece of outer wear like a pelisse or cloak.

They would sometimes even dye an old dress black. I'm sure Lady Mary did not have to make such economies!


1810 Fashion Plate showing a woman wearing
a black mourning dress, for evening wear.
(Wikimedia Commons)


Jewelry during mourning was similarly restrained. Suitable jewelry included pieces made of jet, dark amber or black glass or enamel. Frills such as buckles and bows were definitely out. During mourning a woman would limit her social engagements or skip them altogether.   


A piece of 19th century mourning jewelry made of jet.
 The shiny blackness of jet, which is actually a form of
fossilized  wood,  made it a popular choice for mourning.
(Wikimedia Commons). 

There were specific degrees of mourning depending on the closeness of the relation being mourned. Full black mourning would be worn for a husband or wife for a period of a year and a day. Six months was enough time for a parent or parent-in-law. Required periods of mourning decreased from there, such as three months for a brother or sister, uncle or aunt, down to a week for a first or second cousin. 

After the initial period of mourning a woman could go into half-mourning, wearing black lightened by white details or accessories. Other appropriate colors for half-mourning included subdued shades of gray and purple, along with lilac and lavender. These lighter colors were supposed to help a woman transition back to bright colors and full participation in society and life.




A woman in half-mourning, wearing a
walking dress with a black and white dotted skirt,
white trim and white bonnet and muff.
(Wikimedia Commons)


In this first episode of Season 4 we see Mary wear a lavender dress when she goes to the tenants luncheon. Her lavender gown was a sign that anyone during the Regency would have recognized as evidence that Mary was ready to emerge from her deep mourning and obsession with Matthew’s death and rejoin the world of the living.


If you like, you can watch or re-watch the first episode of Season 4 here.


Comments

  1. Hi Maureen, Nice post. How do I watch last week's whole episode? I'm so disappointed I missed it! xo Jennifer

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    1. Thanks, Jennifer! The link at the very end of my post should take you directly to the PBS site where the entire episode is available for online viewing. I hope you enjoy it :) Maureen

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  2. Maureen,

    I admit, I like the purple and lavender gowns a lot better than the black. I was wondering why all the women in the family were wearing the same color. Now, thanks to you, I know.

    I'm so glad I know someone who has a handle on all this stuff, as I am completely ignorant of the customs of the time.

    By the way, what do you know about throwing a proper English tea party? Baby Cat wants one for her bridal shower.

    - Momma Cat

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